The searching of pleasure in “Flow”

In the book “Flow”, the author said that the human race was conditioned to reach the pleasure instead of pain. But often, people keep waiting for it after pain, like the promise very often heard from parents to child: Try to work hard now for a better future. We can find this item in many daily situations around. The majority hope always a better result in the future. The author said it seems like these people wait to live instead of living their life… daily.

The idea is here and now. That means we enjoy the process. We live the present and at the place we are. As long time as we can remember, people preferred life in hope, prefer waiting in sufferance that promise an eventual happiness.


What is the most important in writing?

The most important thing when we write, it’s a freedom feeling. The feeling that you are able to express whatever you want in another language. So, every subtle feeling inside you can be translated into words.  It’s a sensation of liberty when you could put every single movement created in your head on paper, or on your laptop’s screen. Taking an example of “Exercises in Style” of Raymond Queneau, who told the same history in almost hundred different ways.

It’s a pleasure every time you want to share your inner thought with others. While you learn a language, you share the same power of that language with people. Each language in general and word, in particular, contain a lot of souvenirs that the speaking people put in. You can feel it if you pay attention to. Learning a language means you receive and contribute to this mass of souvenirs. In the same manner, using it means you assimilate and add to.

To finish this text, I copy a phrase that I saw today on the bag of a man on the road. There are three phrases but I forgot the fist one:


Be global.

Be open mind.”

About writing

Many books give advice about how to write. Every exam has his rule about writing. Every type of text demands a way to write, a structure. But how about writing while everyone just tries to put on the paper their thinking, feeling inside without wondering so much about form, structure, words, … In the beginning of course in order to formulate in a natural and fluently way whatever they have in their head. After that, everything will go smoothly by the way they are for perfect the writing: find the precise word, respect the structure of argument, build the correct and standard form, use the good collocation, get some corrections, …

At the same time, increasing “language input” by massive listening, intensive reading is indispensable.  These “inputs” will help us to build up the vocabulary, the structure, everything we need for putting out our idea in a correct form. The ability to recall everything we need to write it down is not natural, it takes exercise, training, a lot of practice.

Another point, it’s regular. We have to write every day. The daily work, even a little, is very important to have a writing skill. Personally, whatever I don’t write or forget to do it one or some days when I try to catch up, I feel more difficult to write things down, less natural to recall words. The feeling is like trying to “recall” an old friend which is farther and farther if I don’t get in touch with him every single day. It’s a lot of work. But we’ll don’t feel that way if we enjoy the journey, or we love writing, or we don’t take it like an obligation but a pleasure thing. Frankly, who can oblige us to write if we don’t want to? Every job has to be done from an inside motivation for a long-term result.

The last point is to write about various subjects. But it will be talked later in the other text.


Writing makes me feel good. Whenever I have some thoughts which are not positive or some worrying, I just sit down in front of my computer and start to write something. Whatever it is, it doesn’t matter, almost immediately, it calms me down and I feel so much peaceful. Writing helps me more concentrate in putting my ideas on words rather than disperse on a lot of other nonsense things. Writing makes me feel so good. Nevertheless, the problem is I’m not good at writing in English. Writing a lot doesn’t mean giving many texts of quality 🙂 I just want to put my thinking on screen (in place of paper 🙂 and I don’t care so much that time for the form of English language to get fluently first. After, slowly, I’ll try to ameliorate the form and the structure of my writing, for sure! I hope that my writing will get better all the time. But skill takes time! and much works to master!

Briefly, mastering writing takes time, and it’s the matter of the future. I would like for now just enjoy my writing and… the weekend! ^ ^

Some words from IELTS

This time, I’m trying to prepare my IELTS’s exam. It’s not easy for me because the listening test demand catches up very detail things, not ideas. Generally speaking, in my opinion, listening is essential for getting main ideas, speaker’s point of view. I was surprised about the fact that all listening exam is about getting some precise words from the text, not about ideas or speaker’s attitude at all. In this point, I prefer TOEFL which seems to ask for synthetic ability. I can’t discuss other parts of the IELTS exam, like reading, writing, speaking in regards of TOEFL’s exam because I never go through none of them.

The revision time for this exam has made me think about a lot of things in my current life. Firstly, I didn’t work hard for an exam for a long time. Secondly, the topics of this exam cover many themes of life, so the candidate has to learn lots of things. After that, this time of learning makes me question about my education that I will give to my little daughter. Which highlight we will give her like education? How do we design her like when she still stay with us? What can we offer her to learn? It’s a big question. A child doesn’t have the limit. He like a page of paper all white, no any trace. It’s a big responsibility to put something on that. We’ll have to think about all that seriously!

We’ll have to think about all that seriously! Anyway, today is a weekend. It’s time to take a rest and relax. I listened tonight the song “Make you feel my love” by Adele which is a tribute to Amy Winehouse.

I’m not really interested in the world of music but I was marked before, long time ago, by a documentary about the life of Amy Winehouse because it’s a special talent and a tragic life too. It made me sad and questioned about life. When I heard Adele, I feel that she is inspired by Amy’s style and she confirmed my feeling in the beginning of her performance. And the song is so touching. In my opinion, even inspired somehow by Amy, Adele keeps her own style which is so simple and so graceful. She is able to touch the heart of people just by her voice, that comes from her heart, definitely! 🙂

“How children learn” – John Holt (1)

I read today an idea in this book that seems very meaningful to me: “… this book can be summed up in two words – Trust Children. (…) Difficult, because to trust children we must trust ourselves – (…) And so we go on treating children as we ourselves were treated, …”. It’s so true! The ability of children seems still a mystery for us, no one could be sure what and how children can do. So, we impose or invent a lot of limits, barriers that we have inside ourselves to children. We often hear about “mirror effect”, we want to see children doing things that we are able to do, not different. The very clear example can be found when we observe the relationship between daddy or mummy with their child. You often see the parent is willing to teach their child to do what they are able to master already and hope that their child can do one day better than them. That calls a better future for the future generation. 🙂

The interesting thing is what John Holt advises us: “What we have to do is break this long downward of fear and distrust, and trust children as we ourselves were not trusted. To do this will take a long leap of faith – but great rewards await any of us who will take that leap.” It demands a lot of courage of parent because that means the parent has to face their insecure, their fear first. I remember when I read the book: “The art of clear thinking” of Rudolf Flesch, who told two important points: every people see things from their own experiences and extract the idea from words. This first constant is so true, which makes me realise how I and others think, act, react in the base of own knowledge which is very limited.

Swimming course

Today, I finished my short swimming course without going nowhere 🙂 It’s awesome but I felt really motivated to learn this sport who very benefits for health. For a long time ago, I learned the brass by myself, from the book and a little everywhere. From more than a week, I’ve relearned some technique than brass, freestyle, on the back, return, etc Sometimes, even rarely, I felt wonderful, I even forgot that I was in the water, there were just a blue colour and a little sound of the water, and a feeling very calm. Then suddenly, I felt like I woke up and the stress was there again because I was on the profound water without master “the water safe” technique. I even took my lovely little girl to the swimming pool to taste the water feeling.

However, I will maybe restart in the other day in the future because I don’t feel comfortable in a place where there are so many people. I feel always stress and I don’t want to stay long in these places like that. Per half, I will master the swim technique one day. For now, I still prefer some exercises on the ground that make me feel better and I can do it every time and almost everywhere I want without any difficulty. 🙂

For now, I understand that the most and basic techniques to learn in the beginning are breath and float. It’s important to feel familiar in the water without panic.

Here are some links about swimming that I found last week:

Some books at mediatheque (in french language):